whispers to the soul - Take Time for you

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Mark Twain says it is easier to fool people than to convince them that they’ve been fooled.
Think about that for a moment, we are being fooled regularly because we are allowing other people other peoples’ thoughts, other peoples’ needs and other peoples’ beliefs, to rule us, we are following, we are not leading, so we are following other what other people want, other peoples’ wants and desires, why are we doing that? Why are we doing that?

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It all comes down to the fact that we allow, what are we allowing? What are we choosing, because we chose don’t we, we choose to do things, whether we do them because we want to or because we are trying to please someone, we do things, then get tired because we are doing things all of the time for others, but it’s not actually what we wanted. So, we are lying to ourselves aren’t we, because you can’t resent someone else for something that you chose to do because you can say no.

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We get it wrong don’t we, we give, we wear all of the hats, we do for others all of the time, but we don’t take time for us, we don’t take time out for ourselves, we don’t do that, we certainly don’t do it often enough. It just reminds me of when you are on an aeroplane when they’re telling you all of the safety features and when they instruct you that when the oxygen masks drop down you are to put yours on first, why is that, it’s because we can’t feed from an empty cup. So unless we take time for us, then we will just end up with nothing to give, we will end up burnt out, we will end up stressed out, we will end up resenting people for wanting of our time when actually it’s our own fault because we give all of the time anyway and so it’s expected, you are taken for granted very easily, but you’ve chosen to act in that way and that is what you have presented, that you are the go-to person, who is going to help and that’s it, it’s
a given that you are going to be that person. Take time out, take time out for you and take time out to think about you.